"When someone says, "Hey, want to do X with me?" Say "yes." Develop the attitude where you need a reason to say "no" instead of a reason to say "yes." You’ll do a lot more interesting stuff that you probably wouldn’t have tried if you do."
“Hollywood says you can be deeply in love with someone and then your marriage will work,” the twinkly eyed, white-haired priest says. “But you can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married.”
For 40 years, he has been giving a lecture — “Whom Not to Marry” — to high school seniors, mostly girls because they’re more interested.
“It’s important to do it before they fall seriously in love, because then it will be too late,” he explains. “Infatuation trumps judgment.”